Surprisingly, one of the biggest obstacles that young newlyweds face is overcoming sexual hurdles.  This is not something that should be taken lightly.  Sexual incompatibility is a big cause of divorce and marital strife and is presumed to be a factor up to 70 percent of the time.  There are ways to overcome these problems, but they take a level of honesty that some people might find embarrassing.  However, it is much better to be open than to lose your happiness. 

Occasionally, a couple may face the issue of having different sexual needs.  You may end up with one spouse who really appreciates sex and one spouse who could do without it.  Compromise, compromise, compromise, is the order of the day.  It is as unfair to expect one spouse to cope with the other’s nymphomania as it is to expect your spouse to live a sexless life.  Go ahead and give sex a try, but agree upon a certain amount of temperance.  Try to find a middle ground that gives one spouse the attention that he/she needs without drowning the other party.  Please remember that sex is not necessarily something intuitive.  Though there are couples who just click from the beginning and know how to please each other, this is not the case for everyone, or even the majority of people.  There is nothing wrong with telling your partner what pleases you.  If they aren’t performing in a manner that you really enjoy, feel free to give them a gentle push in the right direction.  They probably want to please you as much as you want to be pleased.

Over time, many couples report that the sexual flair leaves the marriage after a few years.  This is to be expected.  Raising children and generally keeping the household going takes a lot of time and effort, and sex is usually the easiest thing to neglect.  However, there are ways to keep the passion going in any marriage.  One way to maintain passion is to try new things.  Sometimes, a new position or a different approach can make the difference between the boring, stale sex that you have become accustomed to and something earth shattering.  Also, don’t relegate kissing and caressing to solely sexual activities.  Physical intimacy is made up of more than just sex.  Showing your partner that you find them attractive will help both of you to maintain interest. 

Sex is not work.  It is supposed to be fun, pleasurable and relaxing.  Don’t take the fun out of it by using it as leverage or by going along with something that makes you feel uncomfortable.  As long as each partner keeps the other partner’s pleasure in mind you should be able to have a mutually fulfilling sex life.