Thursday, 11 Mar 2010
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Foreplay is a must! PDF Print E-mail

A mental note to all newlyweds out there: if you want to have a healty sexually satisfying life, foreplay is a must. Lots of newlywed couples as they go on in married life tend to lose this valuable feature.
Foreplay is usually perceived as 

1) caressing
2) touching
3) stroking
4) kissing
5) massaging 

This type of sexual activity may stimulate your senses and sexual desire to extremes and prepare you and your spouse to an amazing unforgettable intercourse. It will bring your sex life to a totally different level, don't be lazy because this will definetely pay off.

Discuss how do you involve in foreplay and what you do as a newlywed in order to warm up you sexual desire.

 
One position at a time! PDF Print E-mail

 As you move forward in your newlywed life, sex problems will unquestionably occur. It is based not only on your physical capabilities, but more on your mental. Stress, everyday routine, small fights and quarrels, crying children, troubles at work and more will add up and effect your ability to perform in bed. Women might start smiling now, thinking that it is mainly man's problem of getting it up and working it out. No! If man needs to get it up, woman needs to keep it up. Woman is more conscious about sex. She is more sensitive about her body. She knows if it is not worth it she won't get into it. How many times did you use or did you hear "I have a headache" excuse"?No stop and think why?

There is nothing in the world more enjoyable than sex. It is both your fault as newlyweds that sex became a routine uninteresting job one would want to escape from. There is nothing to worry about yet. It is interesting to mention that because of not having sex people choose other options: watch porn and masturbate, cheat or getting divorced. And those are different topics that we will talk about later. But coming back to our conversation - what do you need to do! Don't have sex if you don't want to, this would be the worst plan.

First try to relax and take a breath. Your body might ache, take a shower (water has a unique ability to relax) think about something warm from your relationship even though your day was a complete hell. Think about great sex you had when you were dating. Something warm or horny involving your spouse to get you in the mood.

"All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better"
Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Once you are there and you are ready to experiment: put aside your old "routine" and begin from the scratch. Find a way to please your partner differently by switching positions and trying to find as many positions as you can; then pick and choose the ones which you have never experienced before. The eagerness to see how it will turn out must ignite the spark of intense sexual desire. That is exactly how you can find new ultimate positions for you and your spouse and reinvent your sexual life. Solution is to try and work it out in order to have a fulfilled healthy newlywed life.

 

Some sexual positions guides:

 

http://www.menshealth.com/sexpositionmaster/

http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/better-sex-positions

 

 

 

 

 
The Not so Dirty Truth PDF Print E-mail


 

Surprisingly, one of the biggest obstacles that young newlyweds face is overcoming sexual hurdles.  This is not something that should be taken lightly.  Sexual incompatibility is a big cause of divorce and marital strife and is presumed to be a factor up to 70 percent of the time.  There are ways to overcome these problems, but they take a level of honesty that some people might find embarrassing.  However, it is much better to be open than to lose your happiness. 

 

Occasionally, a couple may face the issue of having different sexual needs.  You may end up with one spouse who really appreciates sex and one spouse who could do without it.  Compromise, compromise, compromise, is the order of the day.  It is as unfair to expect one spouse to cope with the other’s nymphomania as it is to expect your spouse to live a sexless life.  Go ahead and give sex a try, but agree upon a certain amount of temperance.  Try to find a middle ground that gives one spouse the attention that he/she needs without drowning the other party.  Please remember that sex is not necessarily something intuitive.  Though there are couples who just click from the beginning and know how to please each other, this is not the case for everyone, or even the majority of people.  There is nothing wrong with telling your partner what pleases you.  If they aren’t performing in a manner that you really enjoy, feel free to give them a gentle push in the right direction.  They probably want to please you as much as you want to be pleased.

 

Over time, many couples report that the sexual flair leaves the marriage after a few years.  This is to be expected.  Raising children and generally keeping the household going takes a lot of time and effort, and sex is usually the easiest thing to neglect.  However, there are ways to keep the passion going in any marriage.  One way to maintain passion is to try new things.  Sometimes, a new position or a different approach can make the difference between the boring, stale sex that you have become accustomed to and something earth shattering.  Also, don’t relegate kissing and caressing to solely sexual activities.  Physical intimacy is made up of more than just sex.  Showing your partner that you find them attractive will help both of you to maintain interest. 

 

Sex is not work.  It is supposed to be fun, pleasurable and relaxing.  Don’t take the fun out of it by using it as leverage or by going along with something that makes you feel uncomfortable.  As long as each partner keeps the other partner’s pleasure in mind you should be able to have a mutually fulfilling sex life.